Sebastian put a lot of offensive effort into his second year of soccer. He didn't get any goals his first year, but his coach could tell that this year would be his breakout year. He was right!

Sebastian scored many goals this year and really helped his team out. During one game against his best friend's team, Sebastian scored both goals and then finished the game with some amazing saves as goalie to keep the other team shut out!

Here are some of the highlight goals from this year:

And now that soccer is done, it's on to hockey!

Since today is Veterans' Day, Sebastian has the day off of school. Last night as we were discussing plans for today, Sebastian overheard us discussing the vacation day. That's when he asked the classic question:

"Why do we have school off for Veterinarians' Day?"

So we had a good laugh, explained to Sebastian about Veterans' Day, and talked about adding a day just for Veterinarians.

Later that night on a separate car trip, we passed a Bump road sign near some construction. This must have reminded Sebastian of an instance a month before where we saw an oddly-labeled sign that cracked my wife and I up for quite a while. So Sebastian asked:

"Dad, why did you think it was so funny that the sign said, 'Speed Hump' instead of 'Speed Bump'?"

Instead of a straightforward explanation, this one just ended with, "I'll explain that to you later." Little does he know that later either means "When you're much older" or "Never".

Time Warner Cable now has a feature called PhotoShow, where you can upload pictures and create slideshow videos. You have the option of posting them online, buying a DVD of the show, and/or submitting it to the PhotoShow On Demand channel. If you submit it to the on demand channel, everyone in your viewing area who has Time Warner Cable will be able to see it, so I'm not so thrilled about that option.

So, here are a few more pictures of the falls where I spread my dad's ashes:

Background

On March 3, 2008, my father passed away unexpectedly due to heart failure. This was not the first time he had had heart issues; He had been hospitalized multiple times previously due to heart attacks.

As arrangements for my dad's body began, I remembered at least three times that my father had expressed his desire to be cremated. I also remembered something else he had once written, so I searched for a letter that he sent me a couple years ago. The letter described a place with a waterfalls in the Blue Ridge Mountains called "Falling Waters". He said that he wanted to take me to that spot some day to show me where he wanted his ashes spread. Unfortunately, I never got to go there with my dad for various reasons, but I thought that I could travel to this place he wanted so much for me to see. I decided to spread his ashes in this place, just as he had requested. I would still travel to this spot with my dad by my side.

Research

I had my work cut out for me, because the Blue Ridge Mountains are a mountain chain that span from Pennsylvania to Georgia and dad never explained exactly where this spot was. Since dad wrote that letter after driving from New York to Florida, it really could have been anywhere in that expanse.

After a few days of searching the internet, I found a "Falling Waters Cascades" point of interest in Google Maps. There was very little information — just the name, a general location, and a picture. Fortunately, it did show me that Falling Waters was in Virginia, outside Buchanan, VA and a few miles northeast of Roanoke. After getting this much information, I was able to track down a brochure on Blue Ridge trails in Virginia, which lists the Fallingwater Cascades Trail as being a moderate-difficulty 1.6 mile hike at milepost 83.1 on the Blue Ridge Parkway.

The Trip

In July 2008, I took a week off of work to make the trip. My wife and I headed down south by car, leaving the kids with relatives in New Jersey. After spending a long, long, long time on I-95, we finally made it to Virginia and spent the night outside Roanoke.

The next morning we set out early and made it to the section of the Blue Ridge Parkway we needed to be on, but had trouble finding the trailhead. None of the areas I passed were labeled as Fallingwater Cascades. After a small amount of confusion and a plenty of surfing the web on my cell phone, we finally located the trail. As it turns out, most pull-offs for trails on the Blue Ridge Parkway have signs prominently displayed and viewable from the road. The Fallingwater Cascades Trail, however, has a pulloff that is behind some trees, so the sign is easily visible only once you pull into the parking area.

Spreading the Ashes

We hiked a short distance down to the falls and enjoyed the view. We found a perfect spot to put my dad to rest, just as he would have wanted. On July 22, 2008 at 08:27, I placed my dad's remains to the stream just before it splashes down the falls. Here are a couple pictures of the area we were at:

• View from the top
• Dad's resting place

I got to do a lot of thinking about my dad on that trip and sitting there with his ashes in my hands. My dad had paranoid schizophrenia, which brings with it many ups and downs. Much of the time, dad made it difficult to ignore the downs. As I sat there staring at the water and the ashes, I remembered all the good times we shared over the years, and I was able to truly forgive both him and myself for the rest.

The Lower Falls

A little farther down the trail and farther down the falls, there is a wonderful spot to sit and enjoy the quiet. I am certain that this is the spot where dad sat for hours, enjoying the nature of this peaceful and beautiful area. Here is the view dad had that he was talking about in his letter:

• Bottom of the falls
• Bottom of the falls

Detailed Location Information

Since I have a GPS receiver, I took careful note of the place where I spread my father's ashes, so that I and others can return to this place with a bit less confusion and research than I had. The coordinates are:

My father's ashes
N 37° 28.610 W 079° 34.875

Parking
N 37° 28.381 W 079° 34.835

For the real geeks out there, you can right-click this link to download an LOC file of the above two coordinates (right-click to save the file). Also, here is the spot on Google Maps that you can zoom in and out to see the area:

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It is a great spot, and I suggest you take the time to check it out whenever you pass through that area.

The End

I really enjoyed the trip down and seeing this spot that my dad once described to me. I'll bet he would have been shocked to know that I really did fulfill this wish for him!

This trip and destination really gave me the chance to say good-bye to dad the way he wanted to be sent off. I'll always miss him, and I'll always love him.

Thanks for the trip, dad.

I thought I'd post an update on one of my goals for this year (and last year, and the year before). A year ago, I posted on 43 Things that perhaps moving into the new apartment would make things easier to keep the place neat and tidy. 2007 proved that this wasn't the case at all. I decided yesterday that I’ve got to really focus on accomplishing this goal so I can help keep my wife’s sanity intact.

Yesterday, I finally got around to getting started on cleaning up the apartment:

1. I picked up the kids’ toys after they went to bed and put the toys in bins. I warned the kids that they will be expected to keep their room clean and that some toys will be disappearing as we store them and/or give them away.
2. I ran two loads of dishes last night and mostly cleared out the sink.
3. The kids’ dirty clothes were piled on the floor, so I bought a second hamper so the kids have a place to put their dirty clothes.
4. We had a large mess on the kitchen floor where our recyclables really had no good place to go. The storage area was far too small (just two plastic drink containers and the bin was full). This resulted in plastic and cardboard spilling across the kitchen floor. To remedy this, I bought a couple plastic bins large enough to hold our standard amount of plastic, cardboard, and glass.
5. I put our futon back into the upright "couch" position — it had been in the flat "bed" position ever since we had company during the holidays.

So, for one night’s work, the place looks a bit cleaner and organized — and certainly less cluttered.

And tonight, I got some stuff accomplished, though I didn't do nearly as much as yesterday:

1. I cleared off the table of the mounds of papers and other items cluttering half of our dining room table. Not only do we have use of our table now, but we also have more of our clutter gone!
2. Sprayed and wiped off the dining room table and chairs.
3. I went through all the areas I cleaned yesterday and made sure that any disarray from today had been cleaned up. (This is the key to keeping the house clean each day!)

There’s still plenty of work ahead of us. We’ll see what the future holds. I’ve requested some cleaning / organization / decluttering books from the library to see what suggestions and hints I can glean from skimming them.

See more progress on: clean up my house and keep it clean. I'll probably post further updates there as I continue to try and keep up with this goal.

Grade School Fight Club

As with any successful series of movies, Baby Fight Club has spawned a spin-off: Grade School Fight Club.

Though Sebastian would have us believe that this bloody shirt was simply the product of a bloody nose, I think I've uncovered the beginnings of Grade School Fight Club.

These clubs have started sprouting up in the deepest, darkest shadows of elementary school playgrounds around the country. Under the monkey bars, by the water fountain, and in the parking lot at 3:00 — hoards of grade schoolers gather to join in this newest trend. So far, they must abide by only two rules:

1. The first rule of Grade School Fight Club is: There is no Grade School Fight Club.
2. The second rule of Grade School Fight Club is: If you tell anyone, we won't be your friend any more.

Please let us know if you uncover any additional information about Grade School Fight Club. We're doing all we can to keep it under control.