Sebastian scored many goals this year and really helped his team out. During one game against his best friend's team, Sebastian scored both goals and then finished the game with some amazing saves as goalie to keep the other team shut out!

Here are some of the highlight goals from this year:

And now that soccer is done, it's on to hockey!

"Why do we have school off for Veterinarians' Day?"

So we had a good laugh, explained to Sebastian about Veterans' Day, and talked about adding a day just for Veterinarians.

Later that night on a separate car trip, we passed a Bump road sign near some construction. This must have reminded Sebastian of an instance a month before where we saw an oddly-labeled sign that cracked my wife and I up for quite a while. So Sebastian asked:

"Dad, why did you think it was so funny that the sign said, 'Speed Hump' instead of 'Speed Bump'?"

Instead of a straightforward explanation, this one just ended with, "I'll explain that to you later." Little does he know that later either means "When you're much older" or "Never".

At long last, I have read 23 books in less than a year and completed this goal!

On Oct 22, 2007, I started this goal, and I completed it on October 1, 2008. The 23 books I read, in order are:

1. A Man Without a Country by Kurt Vonnegut
2. Firmin: Adventures of a Metropolitan Lowlife by Sam Savage
3. Money Doesn't Grow on Trees: A Parent's Guide to Raising Financially Responsible Children by Neale S. Godfrey
4. The Time Traveler's Wife by Audrey Niffenegger
5. Rosencrantz & Guildenstern Are Dead by Tom Stoppard
6. The Metamorphosis by Franz Kafka
7. The Children of Men by P.D. James
8. The Orchid Thief by Susan Orlean
9. Speed Cleaning 101: Cut Your Cleaning Time in Half! by Laura Dellutri
10. Thief of Time by Terry Pratchett
11. The Book of General Ignorance by John Lloyd & John Mitchinson
12. No Country for Old Men by Cormac McCarthy
13. Girl Boy Etc. by Michael Weinreb
14. Mort by Terry Pratchett
15. Darkly Dreaming Dexter by Jeff Lindsay
16. Company: A Novel by Max Barry
17. Reaper Man by Terry Pratchett
18. Jennifer Government by Max Barry
19. Dearly Devoted Dexter by Jeff Lindsay
20. Soul Music by Terry Pratchett
21. Soon I Will Be Invincible by Austin Grossman
22. The View from the Seventh Layer by Kevin Brockmeier
23. How to Get Out of Debt, Stay Out of Debt & Live Prosperously by Jerrold Mundis

Here is the summary/review of the last of my 23 Books, completed on October 1, 2008:

October 2008 (Month 12)

23. How to Get Out of Debt, Stay Out of Debt & Live Prosperously by Jerrold Mundis
    Whether you have $100 or $100,000 in debt, this book has many effective strategies for getting out of debt and staying out. The first section of the book helps you deal with various "broken" views regarding money and debt, helping you understand why you might feel the need to debt. The second section helps put everything into perspective and take some stress off the way you think about your financial status. The third section gives you the tools you need to take control of your finances and truly understand what's going on with your money. The final section helps you with the final stages of getting free from debt and how to increase your prosperity.
    The central concept of this book is: "Just for today, one day, do not incur any new debt." More importantly, the book helps you keep to this rule each and every day. Most of the ideas are based on the Back in Black program used by Debtors Anonymous.

This turned out to be an awesome goal to have (and complete) because it really has gotten me back into reading.

The next-to-last month has slipped by in my challenge. Of course, I'm ending up cutting it very close, but I'm not worried. I have just one book left to finish by October 22. As my luck would have it, the book that I'm over halfway through with was requested by another patron, so I couldn't keep the book! Aargh! That's an obvious setback. Luckily, I am already about halfway through another book, too, but it's non-fiction and much slower reading.

So, here's the one book I did manage to finish this past month:

September 2008 (Month 11)

22. The View from the Seventh Layer by Kevin Brockmeier
    This is an interesting collection of short stories, most of which have a somber tone. Many revolve around characters who are morning in their own way about missed opportunities. Though most of the stories carry this common theme, the characters and settings are completely different between stories. For instance, there is a Star Trek-esque fan fiction, a Choose-Your-Own-Adventure story, a fable about a mute man who lived in a world where everyone else sang melodiously, and a story about a man who accidentally buys God's overcoat that has papers with prayers spilling from the pockets. Among the 13 short stories, there will be touching moments and thought-provoking proverbs, but the melancholy tone carries throughout. A well written book. Suggested for anyone who won't mind a lack of outrageously happy endings.

So, here are a few more pictures of the falls where I spread my dad's ashes:

During a multi-state trip to spread my father’s ashes, I was able to complete another goal by taking one night and go camping with my wife at Rocky Gap State Park in western Maryland.

As often happens, we ended up setting up the tent with the car’s headlights because we arrived too late. In the middle of the night, it started pouring and it continued to rain heavily for the most part until well after we left. Nonetheless, the tent held up well and kept us dry, our tent pad stayed dry, and we enjoyed the experience. It’s a pity about the rain, though, because we were unable to enjoy the beach or other features of the park.

Most importantly, the experience showed me that camping isn’t all that bad! I had many negative memories from frequently being dragged to camps by my parents as a kid, so I wasn’t thrilled with the idea. Now that I don’t find the idea horrendous, I’m excited to be going camping with my entire family for a night or two next month, too!

On March 3, 2008, my father passed away unexpectedly due to heart failure. This was not the first time he had had heart issues; He had been hospitalized multiple times previously due to heart attacks.

As arrangements for my dad's body began, I remembered at least three times that my father had expressed his desire to be cremated. I also remembered something else he had once written, so I searched for a letter that he sent me a couple years ago. The letter described a place with a waterfalls in the Blue Ridge Mountains called "Falling Waters". He said that he wanted to take me to that spot some day to show me where he wanted his ashes spread. Unfortunately, I never got to go there with my dad for various reasons, but I thought that I could travel to this place he wanted so much for me to see. I decided to spread his ashes in this place, just as he had requested. I would still travel to this spot with my dad by my side.

Research

I had my work cut out for me, because the Blue Ridge Mountains are a mountain chain that span from Pennsylvania to Georgia and dad never explained exactly where this spot was. Since dad wrote that letter after driving from New York to Florida, it really could have been anywhere in that expanse.

After a few days of searching the internet, I found a "Falling Waters Cascades" point of interest in Google Maps. There was very little information — just the name, a general location, and a picture. Fortunately, it did show me that Falling Waters was in Virginia, outside Buchanan, VA and a few miles northeast of Roanoke. After getting this much information, I was able to track down a brochure on Blue Ridge trails in Virginia, which lists the Fallingwater Cascades Trail as being a moderate-difficulty 1.6 mile hike at milepost 83.1 on the Blue Ridge Parkway.

The Trip

In July 2008, I took a week off of work to make the trip. My wife and I headed down south by car, leaving the kids with relatives in New Jersey. After spending a long, long, long time on I-95, we finally made it to Virginia and spent the night outside Roanoke.

The next morning we set out early and made it to the section of the Blue Ridge Parkway we needed to be on, but had trouble finding the trailhead. None of the areas I passed were labeled as Fallingwater Cascades. After a small amount of confusion and a plenty of surfing the web on my cell phone, we finally located the trail. As it turns out, most pull-offs for trails on the Blue Ridge Parkway have signs prominently displayed and viewable from the road. The Fallingwater Cascades Trail, however, has a pulloff that is behind some trees, so the sign is easily visible only once you pull into the parking area.

Spreading the Ashes

We hiked a short distance down to the falls and enjoyed the view. We found a perfect spot to put my dad to rest, just as he would have wanted. On July 22, 2008 at 08:27, I placed my dad's remains to the stream just before it splashes down the falls. Here are a couple pictures of the area we were at:

• View from the top
• Dad's resting place

I got to do a lot of thinking about my dad on that trip and sitting there with his ashes in my hands. My dad had paranoid schizophrenia, which brings with it many ups and downs. Much of the time, dad made it difficult to ignore the downs. As I sat there staring at the water and the ashes, I remembered all the good times we shared over the years, and I was able to truly forgive both him and myself for the rest.

The Lower Falls

A little farther down the trail and farther down the falls, there is a wonderful spot to sit and enjoy the quiet. I am certain that this is the spot where dad sat for hours, enjoying the nature of this peaceful and beautiful area. Here is the view dad had that he was talking about in his letter:

• Bottom of the falls
• Bottom of the falls

Detailed Location Information

Since I have a GPS receiver, I took careful note of the place where I spread my father's ashes, so that I and others can return to this place with a bit less confusion and research than I had. The coordinates are:

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It is a great spot, and I suggest you take the time to check it out whenever you pass through that area.

The End

I really enjoyed the trip down and seeing this spot that my dad once described to me. I'll bet he would have been shocked to know that I really did fulfill this wish for him!

This trip and destination really gave me the chance to say good-bye to dad the way he wanted to be sent off. I'll always miss him, and I'll always love him.

Thanks for the trip, dad.

Since I slacked off on blogging and haven't posted here since February, here is a large portion of the books I have read for this challenge:

February 2008 (Month 4)

10. Thief of Time by Terry Pratchett
    This was my first exposure to the work of Terry Pratchett. As a long-time Douglas Adams fan, I had heard Pratchett's name many times, but never took the time to actually read one of his books. I grabbed this one because the plot sounded interesting, and when I read the jacket at home, I noticed it was part of the "Discworld" series. Curious about how to properly start the series, a lump formed in my throat as I discovered that there are thirty-two Discworld novels, and that's not counting four young adult novels, several graphic novels, multiple short stories, and a few science novels! In fact, there's even a flowchart displaying the proper reading order for eight different sub-plots within the Discworld series! Though this book is near the end of a reading order, I noticed that it was only "loosely" connected to the other books, so I went ahead and started reading. I could tell that I'd be reading more Pratchett (and more Discworld) books in the future shortly after I started. The Discworld is a mythology very similar to what you find in Lord of the Rings and Chronicles of Narnia, but much more irreverent. A very fun read — so much so that I decided to start at the beginning of this sub-plot reading order ("Death Novels") and read more Pratchett.
11. The Book of General Ignorance by John Lloyd & John Mitchinson
    This is a great book that gives you the answers to questions you never knew you didn't know. For instance: Who invented the telephone? What is the normal state of glass? What is the Number of the Beast? How many states are in the US? What shape did Columbus think the earth was? How many sheep were on Noah's Ark? Despite what you think, you don't know these answers (unless your answers happened to be: Antonio Meucci, solid, 616, 46, pear-shaped, and 14). Be sure to read this book and find out the truth about 230 misconceptions that are considered "common knowledge". A truly enlightening read.

March 2008 (Month 5)

12. No Country for Old Men by Cormac McCarthy
    I slipped this book in early so I could read it before the Coen Brothers' movie based on this book came out. It's an interesting story. In fact, I was shocked at how loyal the Coens were to the book. Little was left out or changed, save for some extraneous plot lines that jumbled up the last few chapters.
13. Girl Boy Etc. by Michael Weinreb
    This is an enjoyable collection of short stories primarily narrated by single men. Throughout the various stories, Weinreb uses contrastingly different personalities and shows us points of view that we don't often read, see, or hear.
14. Mort by Terry Pratchett
    In Pratchett's first "Death Novel" of the Discworld series, Death hires a lanky apprentice who is appropriately named Mort. When Death takes a break and Mort fails to properly carry out his duties, strange things start happening throughout the Discworld.

April 2008 (Month 6)

15. Darkly Dreaming Dexter by Jeff Lindsay
    Fans of the hit Showtime series Dexter will enjoy reading the book that started it all. Those unfamiliar with the show might enjoy the book as well. Dexter suffered a traumatic incident as a child and was adopted by a cop. Dexter's past altered his brain and gave him homicidal urges, so his adoptive father Harry taught him to kill only those truly evil people in the world who kept escaping the law. Fittingly, Dexter works in the police crime lab as a blood spatter expert.
16. Company: A Novel by Max Barry
    Anyone who has ever worked in an office environment and/or for a large corporation will adore this book. Barry does an excellent job at picking on bureaucracy as well as pointless and often contradictory business methods. The book begins with Stephen Jones' first day at Zephyr. Jones is fresh out of school and has high hopes for his career, but before he even meets most of his co-workers he is given his first task: Find out whether the department was shorted a donut that morning, or if someone took a second donut. Jones discovers that Zephyr is a mind-bogglingly (and hilariously, for the reader) bureaucratic company. After continually being frustrated with the mindless bureaucracy, Jones decides to march his way to complain directly to Senior Management (gasp) without an appointment!

May 2008 (Month 7)

17. Reaper Man by Terry Pratchett
    In the second of the Discworld "Death Novels", Death is fired from his job and sent to live among the humans. Not surprisingly, he chooses to work as a farmhand, using a scythe to cut grain. There's plenty of humor as Death attempts to live among humans, while the Wizards attempt to deal with strange occurrences due to the lack of a Death.

June 2008 (Month 8 )

18. Jennifer Government by Max Barry
    After finishing Company, I had to read another Max Barry novel. This novel takes place in a time where large companies have more or less taken the place of countries. Employees take on their employer's name as their last name, the government cannot do anything unless they are paid in advance, and companies begin using less guerrilla marketing and more guerrilla warfare. A unique view of a possible future, and a very interesting insight on large corporations.
19. Dearly Devoted Dexter by Jeff Lindsay
    Another excellent Dexter book from Lindsay. These books spawned the Showtime series Dexter, and though the plots vary, the books contain the same dry, dark humor and eerie detail that you might have seen on the show. Regardless, the author does a great job at writing interesting plots that make us enjoy this "lovable monster" as he interacts with the world around him.

July 2008 (Month 9)

Though I read during the month of July, I didn't finish a book, and there are several reasons for this. First, I have gotten into geocaching (which I will discuss in a future post), and this took up a lot of the spare time I had been using for reading. Nonetheless, I have been geocaching since April, so this is hardly an excuse. Additionally, I finished Dearly Devoted Dexter at the tail end of June, so I didn't have a "head start" on any books for this month. The book I was reading (Soul Music) was enjoyable, but for some reason it was a slow read for me. All that said, we also spent a week traveling on vacation, and while the book made the trip, quality reading time hardly ever made itself available.

August 2008 (Month 10)

20. Soul Music by Terry Pratchett
    Another interesting book in the Discworld series. In this book, the Discworld (a Lord of the Rings-esque mythical land) is infused with rock music after a musician finds a mystical instrument. As usual, a fun Pratchett book.
21. Soon I Will Be Invincible by Austin Grossman
    An excellent novel for fans of the superhero genre. Chapters alternate between the two narrators, the evil super-genius Doctor Impossible and the cybernetic super-heroine Fatale. The book is filled with homages to common superpowers, catchphrases, and origin stories found in countless comic books. Particularly enjoyable are Doctor Impossible's internal discussions about fighting superheros despite the fact that he loses every single time.

I just finished my 21st book and I have over two months left to read the last two. To tell you the truth, I'm actually reading two books simultaneously (one fiction, one self-help), so I shouldn't have too much trouble with this.

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Here are the four books I read in the second month, December 2007:

4. The Time Traveler's Wife by Audrey Niffenegger
   Despite the fact that this book was 520 pages, well over my self-imposed page limit, this was my favorite book thus far. The story is a chronologically broken telling of a man's time traveling life and his relationship with his wife. Though his travels were out of his conscious control, he often time traveled back to his wife's childhood and spent time with her there. I particularly appreciated the mythology of time travel in this book: He has accepted that "what has happened, has happened" and that he can't change events. (On one occasion, his attempts to avoid an embarrassing situation are actually the cause of the embarrassing situation.) He also has no control over traveling, and unlike most books or shows, he does not travel with his clothes. The book is a great story of romance conquering all and should appeal to both science fiction fans as well as those who enjoy romance.
5. Rosencrantz & Guildenstern Are Dead by Tom Stoppard
   Rosencrantz & Guildenstern Are Dead was one of my favorite movies, and the script is just as much fun. It's even better in the aspect that you can carefully read and re-read the fast-talking portions of the script that simply zing by in the movie or in a performance.
6. The Metamorphosis by Franz Kafka
   I really couldn't stand this story. I couldn't figure out why in the world critics enjoy this story. When I have some free time, I'll have to grab Cliff's Notes for The Metamorphosis to see what people enjoy about the story. I think I have a grasp of some of the metaphors in the story, but even these don't redeem the plot. Does anyone have some words of wisdom about this story?
7. The Children of Men by P.D. James
   James' book is a great story of survival and redemption in a society that has given up all hope. In this story, the entire world has become sterile, and no one has given birth for over twenty-five years. James describes what England has become politically and socially after 25 years of optimism followed by hopelessness.
   I read this book because I enjoyed the movie, but I quickly found out that this book isn't really related to the movie. It's as if someone read the book and thought, "That gives me a great idea for a movie, but I couldn't use the plot without getting permission from the author." Nonetheless, the movie makes for a great movie and the book makes for a great book.

Here are the two books I read in the third month, January 2008:

8. The Orchid Thief by Susan Orlean
   This book was a bit of a disaster. I enjoyed Adaptation, so I thought I would read the book that the movie was based on. What I didn't know was that this book wasn't anything like the movie. The main characters of the movie (played by Nicholas Cage) are not in the book at all. This book is a biography of John Laroche, who was arrested stealing orchids from Florida swampland. Most of the book isn't even a biography, but instead a history of orchids, other plants, and Florida. The book me three long weeks to read. If you're very interested in flowers and people who devote their lives to flowers, then give this book a shot. Otherwise, watch Adaptation and maybe you'll like it. Here's one instance where I can clearly say that the movie was better than the book.
9. Speed Cleaning 101: Cut Your Cleaning Time in Half! by Laura Dellutri
   This is really a how-to book about how to efficiently clean your house. I chose it because I also have a goal to clean up my house and keep it clean. Dellutri has worked in the professional cleaning service for years, and she has gleaned many great ideas. Quick read with many great ideas. Facts like where the worst bacteria homes are in the house (kitchen sponge and refrigerator door) as well as how to clean efficiently (side-to-side strokes, not circular motions).

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Yesterday, I finally got around to getting started on cleaning up the apartment:

1. I picked up the kids’ toys after they went to bed and put the toys in bins. I warned the kids that they will be expected to keep their room clean and that some toys will be disappearing as we store them and/or give them away.
2. I ran two loads of dishes last night and mostly cleared out the sink.
3. The kids’ dirty clothes were piled on the floor, so I bought a second hamper so the kids have a place to put their dirty clothes.
4. We had a large mess on the kitchen floor where our recyclables really had no good place to go. The storage area was far too small (just two plastic drink containers and the bin was full). This resulted in plastic and cardboard spilling across the kitchen floor. To remedy this, I bought a couple plastic bins large enough to hold our standard amount of plastic, cardboard, and glass.
5. I put our futon back into the upright "couch" position — it had been in the flat "bed" position ever since we had company during the holidays.

So, for one night’s work, the place looks a bit cleaner and organized — and certainly less cluttered.

And tonight, I got some stuff accomplished, though I didn't do nearly as much as yesterday:

1. I cleared off the table of the mounds of papers and other items cluttering half of our dining room table. Not only do we have use of our table now, but we also have more of our clutter gone!
2. Sprayed and wiped off the dining room table and chairs.
3. I went through all the areas I cleaned yesterday and made sure that any disarray from today had been cleaned up. (This is the key to keeping the house clean each day!)

There’s still plenty of work ahead of us. We’ll see what the future holds. I’ve requested some cleaning / organization / decluttering books from the library to see what suggestions and hints I can glean from skimming them.

See more progress on: clean up my house and keep it clean. I'll probably post further updates there as I continue to try and keep up with this goal.